Your Sunday Bread: Sexless Love

11392937_1000276093318354_7939337952893540428_nHaving sex is not love. Generally men may think this way, and women think giving sex is love. However, one cannot place a measurement there to say that sex is love, and one should ask when did the Most High say that sex is love?

In this, one should think that seeking sex is seeking love in the wrong place. People love sex, but sex does not seek love that lasts. Hence, one should see that though sex is good it is not love, because when we love a person we may give sex freely; however, in that same note withhold it when we do not love any longer.

Sex is not love then, because love does not fail us when sex is no more, and love is withstanding when sex is not available

. Love suffers, and sex finds another option. Therefore, sex fails when love does not. It is the case, that without love we have nothing but sex which produces babies to love and to recreate love in itself, but since love is not sex–loveless sex can walk away.

Ladies and Gentlemen love is sexless which says that ultimately one must find the realm of making love not sex.

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1 Corinthians 13

I Lift My Hands, Chris Tomlin


Sin in the Big House

In Americathe people of society have become hypocrites, and even the fabric of integrity

which has made America great has been cast aside and replaced with Godlessness. Correctional institutions spring up everywhere with the intention to keep hardened criminals; the bad actors of society away from so-called “good citizens,” but the people kept have become an outlet for clandestine activities and fantasies of the undercover  wicked. Why is it that in the public eye, and the stigma of homosexuality has been broadcast as wrong with reasons given that if one is to have sex then it should be between a man and a woman? Yet, the act of homosexuality has replaced the Godly act between man and woman with a lie; men with men is un-natural and is wrong because God says it is whether behind prison walls or without.  Thus, homosexuality has become an acceptable reason among society that this should take place there; just as unwed sex has been accepted by the whole of society; it is wrong in prison and without. The conversation of sex in prison goes further to say that it is wrong for the guard and prisoner to participate; but why? Is it wrong because it is an act between guard and prisoner, or because two unmarried people should not have sex in the first place? First, it is wrong because God says it, “thou shalt not commit fornication” (Exodus 20:14). Secondly, to have sex while one is incarcerated; especially between an employee of the state and the prisoner he is hired to watch is wrong. It is also noted that not only are most of these excursions between guard and inmate frequent but that each encounter may be coerced; threats of any kind against a human life whether prisoner or free is wrong. Certainly coerced sex is not consensual, because it is rape and  it is wrong. Hence, prison life reveals prisoners raping fellow prisoners in violent attacks, and there is notice of racial initiated vengeance acted out through sexual upheaval.

Prison overcrowding seems to be an additive to an already aggravated situation.

Surely, a guarded prisoner should not endure such horrible treatment from anyone, and especially someone who is of like gender. What rights have another human being no matter the race to take advantage of another human being; hence, homosexuality is wrong and rape is wrong no matter who it is. Women seem to face an even more horrid ordeal than do their male counterparts upon entrance into prison grounds where homosexuality and rape among the females; surprisingly is as common if not more so than that of the men. Society paints a picture of guards being taken advantage of by the women, duped, manipulated into trade of  sexual favors for outside commodities such as drugs and cigarettes not available for the prisoners they guard, but could it be the situation at hand is most certainly initiated and coerced by male guards who can’t fight the temptation; a natural phenomenon  which attracts them to the female they were born to hunt? It is lust at the height of its passion inside the big house as once again someone is literally “screwed” in the name of justice. (De Amicis, A., (2005), Para. 3) Table 1: Taken from GAO Report, GAO/GGD-99-104, page-8 Staff-on-Inmate Sexual Misconduct Allegations Reported and Sustained at BOP, California, and Texas Female Prisons, Calendar Years 1995 to 1998. (De Amicis, A., (2005).

English: Prison guard at Parramatta Correction...English: Prison guard at Parramatta Correctional Centre (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Calendar years 1995 to 1998 Staff-on-inmate sexual misconduct BOP California Texas Total Number of allegations reported

  • 236 BOP
  • 117 California
  • 153 Texas
  • 506 Total

Number of allegations sustained (staff  resignations, employment terminations, or other administrative sanctions)

  • 22 BOP
  • 22 California
  • 48 Texas
  • 92 Total

Total allegations sustained as apercentage of allegations reported

  • 9% BOP
  • 19% California
  • 31% Texas
  • 18% Total

According to the above graph it is obvious that guards are more involved than they admit when it comes to rape and the female prisoner.

A view for the years of 1995 to 1998 reveals

  • 22 allegations for the years during 1995 to 1998
  • 18 staff resigned, 3 were employment terminations and
  • 1 staff reassignment.

As table 1 reflects, each of these allegations involved sexual abuse which is defined by the law as potentially criminal conduct. Out of these 22 allegations, the facts support that 14 allegations were sustained and resulted in criminal prosecution with convictions.” The author goes further to state that there were 6 out if 7 of the officers accused who resigned, and neither faced derogative comments in their file, or jail time. (De Amicis, A., (2005), Para1).

It seems unfair that not all accused don’t face more of a reprimand or suffer lengthy prison sentences because any way the situation is viewed it is rape and is certainly unfair treatment and abuse of women. What is impressive about human beingsbeing kept like cattle or horses in stalls? What is being done to eliminate inhumane conditions,  because according to statistics in relation to prison overcrowding numbers indeed are at a recording breaking high? Further noted is the  result of this overcrowding, sexual abuse, violence, and other unethical conditions is overwhelming. Mariner states, “Prison overcrowding has expanded and has failed to keep up with the pace of inmate numbers.” She states further, “that many state prisons squeeze in many more people than there are designed to hold which leave them bursting at the seams. Numbers indicate that 15 percent of state prisons are in operation above capacity, and federal prisons are 31 percent above recommended capacity”(Mariner, J., (2002), pp. 9, Para 9-10).

The lack of adequate staff  that may also be a cause of prison overflowing from the seams, and it is also noted that not only are trained staff officers scarce, the lack of available funds seem to be an issue when it comes to educating and preparation for duty. Texas is an example given with supra problems in the area of trained corrections staff in the area of inmate work, substance abuse programs and other areas of need. Hence, because of lack of sufficient pay there is an astronomical turnover for staff; being that many are apt to quit because they are underpaid. ” (Mariner, J., (2002), pp. 9, Para 9-10).

“Also, lawsuits filed by prisoners indicate that there is a lack of humane conditions and respect found in offenses like:  “around the clock rack downs in small windowless cells, unheated rooms, no exercise equipment, twenty-four hour video surveillance with female guards to watch them shower and  urinate. Enhanced mental illness issues seem to be a problem as well because of overcrowding, and are under scrutiny by judicial official. There are also reports stating that that those suffering mental illness whose condition and symptoms isolates them, and who face further isolation because of these crowed conditions. The authors states, “the scrutiny of judicial affiliates warranted investigation of complaints filed by plaintiffs included; social isolation, idleness, and limited sensory stimulus aggravated the symptoms of the mentally ill.” (Mariner, J., (2002), pp. 10, Para 7). Therefore, one wonders what is to be the outcome of such horrid and inhumane conditions? Surely there must be further scrutiny and evaluation of issues faced by prisoners who live this way. For rape conjugal visits seem to be a consideration for some male prisoners.

Plans for the future seem to be of immediate concern; the author notes that “The United States Supreme Court has declared that prison rape constitutes “cruel and unusual punishment” under the Eighth Amendment of the U.S Constitution. Despite widespread recognition of the problem, prison officials and law enforcement agencies take little action to combat the occurrence of male rape within the U.S. prison system. Inmates report that prison officials often do not investigate claims of male prison rape and prosecutors rarely bring charges against the perpetrators.” (Wyatt, R., (2006), pp. 579-80, Para. 2).

The graph above shows that this statement is true, and since this is so what can be done for those that can’t seem to keep themselves to themselves. One option is to allow them conjugal visits, but does it, will it work? To reiterate an earlier statement humans are sexual creatures; especially men because of their need sex causes problems. The  author brings another point of view which says, “Prison authorities tend to report lower incidences of prison rape. According to the U.S. Justice Department, only 10% of inmates report physical or sexual assaults. Prison officials admit, however, that they may under report incidents of rape because it is hard for them to tell whether sex acts in prison are non-consensual.” Inmates are often coerced into performing sex acts through non-physical means and appear to be willing participants. Some inmates agree to engage in sex acts with other inmates because they are afraid that if they refuse to do so they will be severely beaten. Therefore, it may seem to prison officials that they have consented to participate in sexual relationships with other inmates.” (Wyatt, R., (2006), pp. 587, Para. 1).

What are the effects of rape in prison whether it male or female? “Psychologically, suicide is one out that prisoner’s take. There is an account of a young boy who was placed in an adult facility because he committed arson, and was there only a week when he was attacked and raped.  The author goes on to say that medical examination declared and confirmed rape, and the boy asked to be placed in single cell for fear of his safety; but was not. The young man wrote home to his father telling him of the violent assaults happening to him, and as the rapes continued the boy finally having enough of it hung himself. (Wyatt, R., (2006), pp. 589, Para. 1).

Concerning health “Studies indicate that the HIV rate among prisoners is “several fold higher” than that of the general public, and indicates that being incarcerated is a cause of the spread of the deadly virus.” (Wyatt, R., (2006), pp. 589-590, Para. 1, 2,).The financial costs of those raped in prison are astronomical, because of law suits brought against prison officials, substance abuse treatment once outside of prison increases. Therefore, costs increase to treat ex-convicts, and there is difficulty for some people to readjust to life outside prison walls; this in turn also affects the safety of society as a whole when people who have suffered brutalized rapes are more likely to commit more crimes outside prison. The author states that, “This finding is especially troubling when one considers that approximately 600,000 inmates are released from U.S. state and federal prisons systems each year.” (Wyatt, R., (2006), pp. 591, Para. 1). Surely, society has an even bigger problem than the law broken. It is when in the midst of despair and defeat people of the religious community say the answer is found in hope in God, and this view begins to make sense when unethical and sinful behaviors run riot for those held captive in the prison system? Is God the way out?  Prison Chaplains seem to think so and consider their job of importance. The author states, “From the research that has been conducted, investigators have found that chaplains occupy a unique position between prisoners and their custodians by overseeing rehabilitation efforts and by serving as “agents of change.” (Kerley, Matthews & Shoemaker, (2009), pp. 88, Para 2).

Ultimately, America must come to acceptance of the error of its ways. Yes, it is right seeking justice for those who break the law to be punished, but along with the punishment; does the thought that rape is, or that homosexuality  is wrong because of only those free? America needs its integrity back, because it is wrong for prisoners to be forced into positions of compromise because one fear for their life. One man’s tale gives evidence of the decision to give up and give into the brutal attacks comes on him saying,” “I had no choice but to submit to being [an inmate ‘s]prison wife. Out of fear for my life, I submitted to sucking his dick, being fucked in my ass, and performing other duties as a woman, such as making his bed. ” “I’m a tall white male, who unfortunately has a small amount of feminine characteristics. . . . These characteristics have got me raped [in prison] so many times I have no more feelings physically. I have been raped by up to 5 black men and two white men at a time. “I go through nightmares of being raped and sexually assaulted. I can’t stop thinking about it. I feel everyone is looking at me in a sexual way.” (Wyatt, R., (2006), pp. 579, Para. 1).  Homosexuality is wrong as is prisoner-guard relations because God says it, and most certainly rape is wrong; because it tears down human dignity and character. America it is time to wake up and do something about your sin problem in the big house.

©Copyright,2011, (Dailey, K., 2011)


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Little Red Riding Hood: Lessons Learned from a Fairy Tale

English: Little Red Riding Hood

English: Little Red Riding Hood (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

To raise a child takes a village, because the world is a dangerous place; let truth prevail and be healed from the ravages of a lawless society. The inhabitants of earth have become desolate,  with many seeking  comfort in the most heinous of ways seeing rape as an outlet from memories of child abuse, murder as an outlet for an angry heart, molestation as a means of escape from an even more troubled past; and no one seeks God as their cure.

Therefore, rape begets rape, murder begets murder, molestation even more molestation; it never ends. In the story of “Little Red Riding Hood,” the view behind  the fairytale is as a warning to young girls to be careful of their virginity. It is originated from the French in 1697 portraying a young girl scarcely clad lying in a precarious position; underneath a wolf. Hence., the original verses of the tale were aimed at those planning on making their beds with the wolf so to speak.( Clugston,  2010, Sec. 4.1). Hence, the theme centers on all that is dangerous in the world and the consequences thereof. Its message can be considered by everyone not just children; grownups can apply the message as well. There are a few things that warrant attention in the story; the village, the woods, the wolf, speaking to the wolf, the long way to grandma’s along with those activities, grandma’s plight,  and the eventual death of Little Red Riding Hood.

Imagery of the village bring into focus a close knit group where the children can run about care free, and where the men and the woman of each house are genuinely friendly towards one another; in other words, they are one big happy family, because they look after one another’s interest. Hence, the premise here is that not one person in the village will allow a stranger to enter their midst. Therefore, it is outside the village where danger lies.

The text says,  “One day her mother, having made some cakes, said to her, “Go, my dear, and see how your grandmother is doing, for I hear she has been very ill. Take her a cake, and this little pot of butter.” ( Clugston, 2010, Para. 2,  Sec. 4.1). Wouldn’t be great if all who are given instruction would follow and walk a straight path?  The village is symbolic and reminder of the protection for those who dwell in it. The text says also, “Little Red Riding Hood set out immediately to go to her grandmother, who lived in another village.” ( Clugston,  2010, line 9,  Sec. 4.1).

The view of the woods is symbolic and can denote what is both good and evil which lurks there; in this case the dangers are of utmost importance. The woods are like the world for Little Red Riding Hoods, because a stranger lurks about waiting for the opportunity to grab her. In this instance we see the wolf as symbolic as well because it is within the dark, thick brush of the world that the stranger hides; sometimes undetected. There is also a need to be aware of surroundings, because while something’s in life have the appearance of safety they can lead to fatal consequences.

Children today have been taught not to talk to strangers, not to take candy or other things that might be tempting, and to do what it is you are to do out there in world and go straight home. It is no wonder then that the girl was in trouble, because first we see she chatted with the wolf; who is a stranger, and second she gave intimate details to him not knowing him at all. The text says, “As she was going through the wood, she met with a wolf that had a very great mind to eat her up, but he dared not, because of some wood­cutters working nearby in the forest. He asked her where she was going. The poor child, who did not know that it was dangerous to stay and talk to a wolf, said to him, “I am going to see my grandmother and carry her a cake, and a little pot of butter from my mother.” (Clugston, 2010, Para. 3,  Sec. 4.1). The conversation shares to much private information; the wolf made her feel comfortable enough to share it. and then the clincher, “Does she live far off?” said the wolf.

“Oh I say,” answered Little Red Riding Hood; “it is beyond that mill you see there, at the first house in the village.” ( Clugston. 2010, line 15,16,  Sec. 4.1). Oh! Watch out what you tell the wolf, because he will use it to kill you.

Safety is always a concern when sending children to places away from the sanctity of home, because parents never know what evils await them. Trusting that they will do the right thing is hard to do sometimes; especially when there are so many temptations to take them away from the task at hand. This is the plight the Little Red Riding Hood has encountered here. The text says, “The wolf ran as fast as he could, taking the shortest path, and the little girl took a roundabout way, entertaining herself by gathering nuts, run­ning after butterflies, and gathering bouquets of little flowers. It was not long before the wolf arrived at the old woman’s house. He knocked at the door: tap, tap.” ( Clugston, 2010, Para.4,  Sec. 4.1).

There are many tempters in the woods of life as is shown with the little girl stopping to admire all the loveliness she sees, and to taste of the fruit that it has to offer; while the wolf uses the information he deceptively obtained and goes to kill her grandmother. It can be noted that some people do things trusting too easily and those who they love are placed in a vulnerable situation; it may not threaten life as seen here but can threaten security.

Do not answer a voice that is unfamiliar. The old wives used to say, “follow your first mind,” surely to follow such a warning would be a wise application of wisdom when dealing with something unfamiliar. The text says, “Little Red Riding Hood, hearing the big voice of the wolf, was at first afraid.”( Clugston, 2010, Para.5,  Sec. 4.1).

Have you ever tried to play with someone’s child, and they not being acquainted with you start to cry? There is something about a strange face, an unfamiliar voice that small infants will not tarry with, and because of this they will scream, urging back until they are safely in their mothers arms once again. It is Divine instinct and this is the premise of this line because Little Red Riding Hood did not follow her first mind. This symbolic for premonition or foreshadowing; which tells of danger ahead, and led to the death of Little Red Riding Hood.

Ultimately the goal of all parents raising children or even young adults venturing out into the world is to be remain watchful at all times, stay on the straight path, do not talk to strangers, follow your mind, be obedient to live a long and healthy life.


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Fort Worth Pastor, Darrell Blair Accused of Sexual Assault

Fort Worth Pastor, and singer, Darrell Blair arrested for sexual assault moslestation

Facebook Pic Picks Victim to Kill

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TEXAS–A man posing as a teen on Facebook has shot and killed a 16 year old girl; claiming he did not want her to tell on him because he raped her, sources say.

Franklin Davis, 30, is accused and charged with attracting the teen and luring through a Facebook picture; where he posed as a teenage boy to hook up with her.

In an interview with Fox4news, Davis, admits to shooting the teen and then stomping her neck to finish the job.

Shania Grays, 16, would have been 14 years old at the time that the alleged rape occurred.

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Samar Minallah (in the middle) Filming in Rahi...

Samar Minallah (in the middle) Filming in Rahimyar Khan for a documentary on Human Trafficking (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In life’s order there is a perception of what is true and right that has kept its members bound in confusion. Isn’t it love for selfish motives, a heart hardened that will turn against another to murder? In a particular society’s view whether the act is mass or individual; murder is wrong. Life is precious because it is God not man who allows it, and although finite societies cannot exist without it; whether good or bad life springs forth; it is a gift. How dear are the relationships committed to our trust whether dating or finding a mate, and where even those close family ties where mutual respect or boundaries set without a word are not safe? For those who have been cheated out of trust invested their lives have proved shameful; polygamy is wrong. Intimacies of the sexual nature for most are mutual, but found in every walk of life are those who cannot control the animal instinct within themselves. In a world of darkness there are those who risk not only their own lives, but also their victims; it is sex without permission, it is rape and it is wrong. Is this perception truly won by the people who live it, or are they disillusioned by those who live their reality in a dark abyss taking from and never giving to others? Murder for them is life, life to them is death, and close ties and family are but a means to an unnatural end; it is a murdering spirit. Thus the world is in a state of pandemonium, and it is all wrong.

What thoughts surface in the mind of a man with a gun who standing above another as he cowers on the ground in fear? Is there laughter of heart, a long awaited orgasm as cries are silenced when the trigger is pulled? Yet, there is an image of urine soaked pants, sweated brow, and tears as this living soul prays desperately in those last moments of life; because what is known about the face of death is revealed as the author explains it, “as if to read the words encrypted in a glance, a stare, a hesitant smile, urges: “Do not kill me.” It says much more than that, of course, once it is allowed to speak. It says, “Do not shame me, do not pass by without offering a hand of fellowship, building far more than what we build together, cementing friendship and allowing us to create a community” (Goodman, 2010, pp. 88, Para. 7). Thus a community is wiped out, one man, woman, and one child at a time, innocent victims? Yes, it is all murder, and it is wrong.

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English: A chart showing positive correlation between level of human trafficking in countries and number of female children out of primary school. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Killing of the innocent in the mind’s eye is foul, but there is one evil for which some are held in its grip, and where thoughts of death cry out for sweet release; it is slavery and it is wrong, because along with it comes a murdering spirit. Goodman says, “Murder is destructive. But slavery keeps its victim alive while stripping her of agency, assigning it to others who do not share her projects, hopes, or interests, but subordinate her capabilities to their wants. I use the feminine gender here, although slaves today are of both sexes and all ages, since the bulk of human trafficking is in women and children” (Goodman, 2010, pp. 90. Para. 7). Human trafficking as seen in this context permeates the mind of those trapped, and who long for the taste of freedom; heart, body and spirit.

The view of slavery as wrong finally begins to sink in, and there is an acknowledgement of its victims held hostage against their will. Self-will running riot rears its ugly head once more, and it is on another avenue where the screams of polygamy are heard; screams of sorrow, screams of hurt and it is all wrong.  Love of the heart wars against the laws of man, and love cries out for justice as the scene reveals women bound by bride wealth agreements, arrangements of entitlement; and torture for those who live this way. Where are the joys of marriage, the pleasure found in the lovemaking between one man and one woman; his wife, her husband? This view is of one man shared, and who is passed from woman to woman, house to house; it is pandemonium at its peak and it is wrong. “These grounds alone suffice to show that polygamy is bad for women and as such bad for humanity” (Goodman,  pp.91, Para. 3)

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USAID Human Trafficking Symposium, Sept. 16, 2009 — Actress and UNICEF Ambassador Lucy Liu spoke out against human trafficking and lauded USAID efforts to increase awareness. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Murder of spirit continues as the victims are forced into sexual acts against them. Sexual encounters without permission or consent is rape. Goodman explains further, he says, “Perhaps that helps explain why rape is used, even today, in warfare, especially ethnic and genocidal wars, where the object is not just to snatch land and goods, kill troops, or destroy materiel, but also to humiliate and demoralize. Rape is wrong. It is always wrong. No circumstance can make it right. Rape is not, as some feminists pretend, coterminous with heterosexual relations. The rhetoric of that pretense aims to infect heterosexuality with the violence that normative and natural bonds of loving couples vigorously belie.” (Goodman, pp.92, Para. 5).  Therefore, rape in all its glory is violence against another; it is war against ones spirit and it is wrong.

Finally, there is a moment of clarity into the minds of the deviant as people continue to conjure their own thoughts of right and wrong, or good and bad.  Rape is wrong and is violent which murders the spirit. Polygamy cheats its victim of their invested trust, leaving them loveless and always in search of it. Slavery is wrong, because its imprisonment of humans is also murder of someone’s spirit which permeates all aspects of life. Murder above all is wrong, because it takes lives, and kills not only the intended, but those who love them; mind, body and spirit in homes, communities, countries and the world.


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